奶奶

Grandmother’s greatest gift was her ability to bring people together. Ability to make friends.

Today at the funeral, I saw all our family, her old coworkers, school friends, students’, students’ families, etc etc etc. Very very different people from different backgrounds.

Her smile brought people together, and her smile took care of us.
My entire life I’ve known her and it was always her smile that told me everything was going to be okay.

And when grandma made friends, she held on to them. I always hear her talking on the phone, making long distance calls every chance she could, to check up on old coworkers, old college friends.

Recent years, I would take frequent trips to hospital with grandma and grandpa, to get checkups with them. She would always talk to random strangers while we waited. At first i would always feel kind of shy, sometimes a little annoyed. But i grew to enjoy it because we always met interesting people.

She mostly spoke in Chinese, but if she needed to, she wasn’t afraid to introduce herself to people in English. She was never shy about it, she just love making new friends. And i only found out in recent years that she could speak japanese, when she introduced herself to a japanaese speaking friend of mine…and then she told me she could speak russian as well.

Grandmothers greatest skill was how she was able to hold us together, and keep us connected. She love friends.

Grandmother was many many things, but most of all, she mainly considered herself a teacher. I consider this the last lesson she has to give to us.

That you are not defined by what you do, or how you look, or where you’re from. you are defined by the connections and relationships you foster with the people around you. You are defined by the community you build.

奶奶最偉大的天才就在於她勸解人們的能力。奶奶最會交朋友。今天我在葬禮看到了家人、奶奶的老同事、老朋友、新朋友、學生、學生的家庭和孩子;各種背景的人。

奶奶的笑容使我們團在一起。奶奶的笑容一直照顧了我們。

我一生、奶奶都在我身邊。她的笑容一直告訴我、一切都會好的。

奶奶交了朋友、永遠會留著他們。奶奶忘不得她的朋友。幾乎每週末、我聽見她在房間里打長途電話、往國內朋友家人問好。

前幾年、奶奶爺爺長需要去醫生體檢。在等候室里、奶奶就喜歡隨便找陌生人聊天。先開始、我感到害羞、有時我都一點不賴煩。但是過了幾次、我看到奶奶這樣我很喜歡、因為我們經常見到好有趣的新朋友。

奶奶說中文、但是她也不害羞用英語介紹自己。我這前幾年、有個日本朋友來家裡玩時、才發現奶奶會說日本話。也剛發現奶奶也會說俄國話。

奶奶最厲害的技能就在於她抱團我們的能力。奶奶最愛朋友。

奶奶她一生做了很多不同的事不同的職業、但是最終奶奶是老師。這就是奶奶給我們講的最後一堂課:你的身份不在於你的外表、不在於你的職業、也不在於你的背景。你的身份在於你和別人培養出的關係、你的身份在於你給別人付出的友情。你的生活的意義在於你創造出的社區。

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